Love has become nothing more than a cute word in our day and age. The word is so misused that it has lost its meaning and power to affect us. The pithy quotes about love I saw hanging in homes during our journey was a reminder of the hypocritical uselessness of the concept of love the world has adopted. Love has to go deeper than the saccharine, syrupy quotes that are bandied about. This is sad to see because love, real love, the sacrificial love that costs us everything, is more powerful than all the hate the world can aspire to.

Crying out for love

When Wanda and I had our spiritual renewal in the late 90s, we both began to hunger for Jesus. A desperate yearning rose in my heart that turned into a prayer that God answered. I grew up in a loveless home and spent much of my childhood and youth alone. With no friends, loneliness was my faithful companion. When God stirred my heart again, I cried out to know what love was. There was a song by the band Foreigner that became my prayer. “I want to know what love is. I want you to show me.

In crying out to know what love was, I was asking to know Him Who is love. My misspent youth did not allow me to know love nor could I show love to others. Like all people God would have to train me in love if I was to be His. The only way I could learn to love would be to submit to His leading and let Him show me. Although I could not love, I could obey. That was enough for God to work with. It is also the first lesson of love I ever learned. “Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way for it is not self-seeking; ” 1 Cor. 13:5.

Obedience to His will is the first step I learned to do in the dance of love. If I was to learn what love is, I had to obey the One who is love.

The lessons of love

The next lesson I had to learn was to deal with my past. Since I had learned to drink harm from others God had to train me how to drink nurture from Him. This was a tough lesson and took many years. Over time God led me through a deep healing process over my past, setting me free.

When I learned to let go, forgive others and was forgiven, I was learning how to love. Despite what others had said and done to me I had to bring everything to Jesus’ cross. There was no act of ‘self’ done by me, or against me, that was greater than His sacrifice. Nothing. When God released me from my past, I found there was no root satan could pull on to pull me away from Jesus. I was no longer in pain in those areas of my life and I did not react as I once did. “Love is not touchy or fretful or resentful; ” 1 Cor. 13:5.

Jesus’ example of love when He was on earth and His constant love towards me kept teaching me how to love.

There is no love in ‘self’

I began to learn that I am not love, He is. I do not have love in me, I can only accept His love and reflect that love to others. It was only in letting Him destroy the ‘self’ in me He could create an ever clearer reflection of His love through me. This required that I continue surrendering my ‘self’ nature to Him.

Here I learned another basic of love, “Love is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily. Love is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); ” I Cor. 13:4-5. As Jesus destroyed my pride in ‘self’ He set me free to love. My identity was to be in Him alone and not in anything I could ‘do’ for Him. Pride and love are mutually exclusive.

The journey of love

When Jesus began leading us on our wilderness journey, we had to make some very brutal decisions. Those raw decisions revolved around letting go of many things we held dear. Giving up is never easy, especially when that which you are giving up is precious to you.

We had a stark reality ahead of us and we had to decide if we would give up everything to follow Jesus or not.

It was at these moments of intense spiritual battle where we gained a great victory by letting go of the temporal so we could receive the eternal. After we had given up, Jesus rewarded us with another lesson in love. “Love never is envious nor boils over in jealousy,” I Cor. 13:4. In letting go of stuff we now could receive more of Him and the pull of the things of earth disintegrated. It was a revelation of freedom knowing that we would not have to lust over things as He would provide everything we needed.

Love in pain

As we journeyed in homelessness, we met many who abused us verbally. Their words cut into us deep. I cannot say those words did not hurt for they did, painfully so. Jesus, however, was leading us and we had to look to Him to heal the wounds others inflicted on us. This was a choice of either taking pain to Him and being set free, or holding the pain inside and becoming bitter.

We met many bitter people that thought evil of us and we did not want to be like them. We decided as a family to take our pain to the One who took our pain on His cross. By this act we learned another great lesson of love. “Love is ever ready to believe the best of every person,” 1 Cor. 13:7. We either had to forgive and love those who hated us or be consumed by hatred for them.

We had to learn to reflect Jesus’ love for others, even when they tore us to shreds with their words.

This did not mean we just took the blows smiling, we did not. Sometimes we had to stand up against the vicious attack and stop them but we did so carefully. “Love is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly.1 Cor. 13:5. On a rare occasion a person would see what they were doing and repent. It is very rare, but it happens. At these times we celebrated that they were sensitive enough to yield to God’s Spirit. “Love does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail.” 1 Cor. 13:6.

Patient endurance

There was one final lesson of love that we learned as we walked through many years of hardship, struggle and homelessness. This was the greatest lesson and the hardest to learn. Paul mentions it no less than 5 times in 1 Corinthians 13. The one lesson that only those who give up all and follow Jesus truly learn is the lesson of patient enduring love.

Love endures long and is patient and kind; Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, Love’s hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and Love endures everything [without weakening]. Love never fails [never fades out or becomes obsolete or comes to an end].” 1 Cor. 13:4,7-8.

This love of Jesus stood with us during our whole wilderness time. In standing with Him we learned to endure through every hardship and not quit. This love goes the distance when you are hungry, tired, cold, wet, alone and miserable. Jesus’ love held us tight when all of hell was unleashed against us. The love of the Father kept us safe during the dark stormy nights.

Jesus’ love endures long and never failed us so we did not quit following Him.

1 Corinthians 13

No enterprise, regardless of how lofty the intent, will succeed if there is no love of God in it. Love is the beginning and the end. Without love there is nothing.

The deep love of Jesus

This love I have talked about here is not the love of the pithy quote or off-hand comment, no, it is the deep, practical, sacrificial love that gives up all for Jesus. This is the love Jesus showed us on the cross when He endured all for us and did not quit. His abiding presence with us is His love. He is the great Son to our reflective moon. We bring Him great joy when we are so aligned to His will that we accurately reflect His love to others on this earth. To gain that goal, you must allow Him to mold and shape you, to remove the dross, the ‘self’ nature in you, so you are pure before Him. Only then will you properly reflect His love to others.



This Post Has 16 Comments

  1. juliedibblewrites

    Good morning Homer, what a powerful testimony to learning to lay down one’s self to receive the love He longs to give us. I can relate to having no idea what love really was until my journey began 5 years to grow closer to Jesus. What an awesome God we serve! Have a blessed day, brother. In Christ, Julie

    1. Homer Les

      Good morning Julie! Thank you so much. Surely love is one of those things which will take us eternity to fully understand. 🙂 We are so thankful He is drawing you closer to Himself and granting you the mysteries of His love as He is doing for us. He truly is awesome.

      I think, when we are all together in heaven, each one of us will play a note in the grand symphony that is His love. When we all come together the music will be absolutely beautiful, in perfect harmony. Can’t wait.

      We agree, Jesus is AWESOME! May your day be filled with new jewels of His love blessing you today too sister!

  2. Gary Fultz

    SO true Homer.”There is no Love in self” Only through Jesus working in and through us can we become a “reflection” of his love.

    1. Homer Les

      Amen Gary. His love is the be all end all! Blessing to you brother!

  3. sparksfit

    True love gets lost in translation in our modern culture. Thank you for highlighting it. Visiting from the faith and friends link up.

    1. Homer Les

      You are very welcome! Bless you!

  4. Dawn

    Thanks Homer! Love is what brings everything together. We know God is love and that He is sovereign over all things. I’m just curious, do you ever have people ask you why a loving God would allow so many bad things to happen. I sometimes hear this question from non Christians and Christians. I know your family has endured a lot and have seen God work in marvelous ways. What are your thoughts?

    1. Homer Les

      To be honest Dawn, although I have considered the question in passing, no one has ever asked us that as far as I can recollect. I do know it does get asked but not to us. Not sure why.

      At the core I have to wonder why people ask the question. It is like most people see suffering, hardship and trial as something that is irredeemable. Personally I think it stems from a lack of maturity. An immature mind just can’t wrap itself around how suffering can be a blessing. Unless you experience suffering and the amazing ability of God to transform it into beauty, I can see why people would think that way. ‘Self’ hates to suffer and can see no good in it. God, however, takes ALL things and can make them beautiful, especially suffering, if we submit to Him.

      I think there is more but I am not sure if I should answer this here or make it a blog post. What do you think?

      Thank you Dawn. I appreciate you dear sister! You are a blessing! May His face shine brightly on you today.

      1. Dawn

        You’re welcome! I love the response you’ve written. Thank you! My daughter ask this question a lot and is losing faith in Christ. She’s 22. That’s a great point you made…how God makes all things beautiful. I think you should definitely make this a blog post!! Looking forward to reading more of your thoughts on this topic! God bless you!

  5. DeborahMarie

    Thank you for sharing! I haven’t been receiving your posts in my reader. Don’t know why. I had to go to your page to read this.

    1. Homer Les

      You are welcome. I am sorry that the posts aren’t showing up. That may explain why I have seen a drop in the number of people visiting the site. I will have to check on this. Thank you for letting me know. May our Father continue to richly bless you!

      1. DeborahMarie

        I saw you comment on a post, which prompted me to think, “I haven’t read anything from you lately.” That’s when I went to your site and saw that you had! Maybe there is something to your drop in numbers.

  6. Realize this is really a late remark, but was impressed by Dawn’s remarks about suffering & God’s response to it.

    I’ve often heard from Pastor’s that God responds to faith and not need. If He responded to need sickness, hunger, loneliness, despair, etc. would not exist.

    Contrawise, I’ve heard others make the comment that the reason why God is supposedly silent when people suffer is because He is suffering & greving in silence With Them.

    1. Homer Les

      Thank you for this comment, regardless of the time. 🙂

      Yes our Father responds to us in many ways. He is not unaware of our needs but we have to understand what His priority is. His purpose is always to bring us into deeper intimacy, maturity and fellowship with Him. God will use anything in our lives to bring that to life in us. Sometimes that means our needs are not met for a time. Some times He meets those needs before we even realize it. As long as we understand that through all this He is bringing us closer to Himself so we can have more of Him and His great love we are in a good place. That is, as far as we can see, the essence of faith. Sometimes He is silent with us in the suffering, sometimes He speaks life to us but at all times He is with us, encouraging us to have the faith to take the next step of trusting Him.

      May His richest blessing overwhelm you today!

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